AF Picks: Best Adoption BlogsWe scoured the blogosphere for the most funny, heartwarming, honest online reads. Our congratulations to these 20 outstanding picks.
 When adoption is a part of your life, you have stories to tell, and are hungry to learn from, rejoice at, argue with, applaud, or smile knowingly at the experiences of others. Blogs offer an ideal way to do so.
Starting from your nominations, we clicked our way through the adoption blogosphere to bring you the best of the best. The 20 selections listed here (in no particular order) will get your heart beating a little faster, make you LOL, cause you to reminisce about your family's memories, maybe even question your own parenting decisions—and move you to post your own comment.
1. My Thoughts Through the Journey of Adoption
After struggling with infertility for six years, Heather and her husband decided to adopt. They're currently waiting to be matched with a birthmother, and blogging every detail of the process. This no-frills blog reads like a diary, and lets you feel like you're "in on it" with the author.
Quotable Post:
"I spent most of my time this weekend no longer looking for the best agency, but comparing us to the 'other' families on the list. I know this probably isn't the best way to spend my time. However, I think (or I hope) it's natural to want to find out where you stand on the list of perfect families waiting to be matched. My biased opinion, after looking through 154 profiles, is that we would absolutely be the 'coolest' couple on the list! Haa haa!"
Tags: waiting, adoption process, domestic
2. Lanie's Ramblings
Lanie is nearly two years into the wait to adopt domestically. Read her real-life discussions of the networking and fundraising methods they're using (Google ad words! Business cards! Garage sales!) and her meditations on waiting.
Quotable Post:
“There is a popular saying that 'No news is good news.' While I can see how that would be true in many situations, when it comes to adoption, no news is not good news most of the time.
When you have put together your family profile, to be shown to pregnant women who are considering adoption plans, and there is nothing left to do but sit and wait for the phone to ring, no news is definitely not good news."
Tags: waiting, domestic
My Paperwork Pregnancies: From needles to homestudies to parenthood. Danielle Pennel also blogs at
threeyellowroses.com.
The Yin and the Yang: Life in a family formed through birth and international adoption. Stacy Clark also blogs at
thissideoftheskies.
blogspot.com.
The Waiting Room: A biological family of four anticipates becoming a blended family of five.
Be Bold or Go Home: Life as a visible, multiracial family can be challenging, but it's never dull! Sharon Van Epps also blogs at
whateverthingsaretrue. typepad.com.
Painting the Nursery: Renee Hoyt's blog began as she chronicled her wait. Since adopting her son domestically, in early 2010, she writes about being a new mom.
Two Brides, One Adoption Story: Musings from an "alternative" family. Eva also blogs at
eggdroppost.com.
Man Up!: AFC's only male blogger, Jeff writes about what adoption has taught him about fatherhood, family, and himself. He also blogs at
meyouandmanu.
blogspot.com.
Melting Pot Family: Celebrating a rich blend of cultures. Ellenore Angelidis also blogs at
ethiopianties.
blogspot.com.
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3. Production, Not Reproduction
PNR is the blogosphere destination for members of open adoptions. In addition to well-written personal posts, Heather maintains an open adoption blogroll and hosts roundtables, offering thoughtful prompts like, "Imagine your child as an adult describing his open adoption experience."
Quotable Post:
"When I mention open adoption to acquaintances for the first time, they almost always bring up first parents who might pose a danger to their children. When I tell them I'm married, they don't warn me that spouses can be abusers. Yet they assume we should approach our relationship to my son's first parents with great caution.
What is it about open adoption that is so frightening to most people?”
Tags: open, transracial
4. Chasing a Child
After doing the infertility rounds, the author and her husband adopted domestically. Read her infectious, amusing posts about parenting a very active little boy (dubbed "Squeaker" on her blog), reestablishing birthmother contact after nearly two years, and their current quest to become parents via frozen embryo transfer, at age 45.
Quotable Post:
"We called Squeaker's birthmom yesterday to wish her a Happy Birthday. I could hear the nerves in her voice, so we talked about other things before I put Squeaker on the phone. When I did, he burst out singing 'Happy Birthday' with no prompting!—and I grabbed a tissue.
After I took the phone back, I asked her if she was OK. There was a long pause. Then, very slowly, she said, 'That…was SO cool.'”
Tags: open, domestic, transracial, infertility, assisted reproduction
5. Letters to a Birthmother
M. began her blog in 2007 as a way of "sending" notes to the birthmother they weren't in close contact with. Since then, their adoption has become fully open, and her blog chronicles the everyday ups and downs of parenting her son, "Woob," in an open adoption.
Quotable Post:
"Woob: I have two daddies.
Me: Yes you do.
Woob (excitedly): And two moms! You and N.!
Me: How special that you do (hugs and kisses).
He's initiating adoption (and body parts) discussion a lot lately. I'm glad he is. I can't imagine being a family that doesn't tell a kiddo about his adoption (or his body parts) until he's 'ready.'”
Tags: domestic, open
6. My Three Sons
Samantha is the wise parent we all strive to be. She writes with humor and grace about parenting three inquisitive, active, big-hearted boys through domestic, infant adoption.
Quotable Post:
"When Oscar asked me why he had never met my mother, I said, 'She is not kind to other people, and I can't take the chance that she would be unkind to you.' He thought, then responded, 'Mom, do you ever wish she had made an adoption plan?'
He understood that my mother, like his birthmother, was not able to be a mother. But mine did not have the same foresight and courage as his."
Tag: domestic
7. Write Mind, Open Heart
When Lori, a mother of two, started blogging, her family had a very open relationship with her daughter's first mother. Now, all four birthparents are a regular part of their lives. Must-reads include her compelling accounts of post-adoption depression and the reunion with her daughter's first father.
Quotable Post:
"The most recent Mother's Day brought a first, as well as a completion. For the tenth year in a row, Tessa's first mom and I wished each other a happy Mother's Day. For the third year in a row, Tessa's first dad texted me. For the first time in awhile, Reed's first mom sent me greetings. And for the first time, Reed's first dad reached out.
Both of our open adoptions are now complete. And, g*d willing, ongoing.”
Tags: open, domestic
8. Donor Eggs Journey
After various fertility treatments, Journey Girl traveled to Thailand for a donor egg transfer. Her son is now three months old, and she's embracing the challenges motherhood brings. She and her husband are going to try for a second baby in the fall.
Quotable Post:
"There is a lingering feeling of 'what the?' about being a 'Donor Egg Mother.' It is not that I feel separate from JBB. I don't—I couldn't love him more than I do. I don't care that he doesn't look like me—he looks like my fabulous husband, which is a beautiful thing to me.
I think it is because of the label 'Donor Egg Mother.' Why do I feel the need to label myself so, when I am just 'Mother'?”
Tags: infertility, assisted reproduction
9. Mama C and the Boys
Mama C is a single mother, by choice, through domestic, open adoption and donor insemination. She's currently "co-parenting" her two sons with her oldest brother, who lives upstairs.
Quotable Post:
"Marcel has seen a picture of his donor. His donor is a real person. His donor has a face.
My explanation went something like this: 'Just like Sammy has a birthfather, who helped bring him into the world, you have a donor who helped create you. A donor is like a birthfather.'
That night he ran into a family gathering asking if they wanted to see a picture of his donor.
His grandfather thought he said 'donut.'”
Tags: single, transracial, assisted reproduction, open
10. Goggy Coffee
Goggy has a fluid, lighthearted tone, and many of his tales will make you laugh out loud. But he's also written profound posts on infertility from a male viewpoint and on race. His family is fostering (and hoping to adopt) their son's younger brother, so we're eager to see how that unfolds.
Quotable Post:
"When people learn that we hope to adopt J, they usually ask, 'Aren't you afraid of the effect on the kids if he leaves?' If he does, we'll mourn losing him. Then, after time has passed, we'll look back on our time together and take comfort in that. We're grateful for the memories we've already gotten to build with him in our lives. For years we prayed for a letter or a photo from Isaac's birth family. We didn't expect to get another son.”
Tags: domestic, foster, transracial, dad's perspective
11. Adoption Talk
The tagline of Malinda's blog, "Talking about adoption, birthparents, abandonment, race, and China with my kids," nicely sums up what she covers. She tackles these topics head-on in intelligent, well-written posts. After every visit, you'll close your browser with something to think about.
Quotable Post:
"At ballet on Wednesday, a little girl asked Zoe why her skin was brown, told her it looked dirty, called her 'Blackie,' and accused her of 'sneaking around' the ballet studio. None of Zoe's friends in the dressing room stood up for her.
It's so ugly, it hurts to type it. Even worse, when I offered sympathy, she tried to make me feel better, saying, 'I'm used to it.' How awful to be eight years old and used to racial insults.”
Tags: China, talking about adoption, transracial
12. Our Little Tongginator
The clean, attractive design will catch your eye, and the funny, honest stories about raising a feisty little girl adopted from China will keep you checking back.
Quotable Post:
"It wasn't until about a year ago that I truly began enjoying being a momma on a consistent basis. Before that, it felt like a ton of work. With sprinkles of rainbows thrown in to give me hope.
But this past week the Tongginator was sick and spent three days suctioned to me like a limpet. The diagnosis? A cold. But she wanted me. Touching her, loving her. All the time. Y'all, I think we've finally arrived. And it feels so darn good."
Tags: China, transracial, special needs
13. They're All My Own
When Alison and Kurt's daughters were in their late teens, the couple adopted two boys from Ethiopia. Alison's unique perspective—she's a mother by birth and by international adoption and an adult adoptee—comes through in many posts.
Quotable Post:
"It is Jemberu's Gotcha Day tomorrow. This is a big deal at our house.
My own Gotcha Day was a couple of weeks ago. When I was growing up, this meant I would hear 'my story' again. I would groan when my dad got to the part about my stinky diaper, and my mom being so excited she forgot to bring a diaper bag. My groaning didn't fool anyone, I loved every detail of my story."
Tags: Ethiopia, transracial, older-child adoption, biological children, adult adoptee
14. Ethiopia or Bust
Amy chronicles her family's story, from deciding to adopt, in 2006, to bringing home her son and daughter from Ethiopia, in 2007 and 2010, respectively. Her blog's beautiful design and gorgeous photos will keep you clicking.
Quotable Post:
"This week I have been obsessed with receiving the call. Once Silas is down for his nap, I basically just wait for the phone to ring. I stare at my computer, flipping between e-mail, Facebook, and blogs, and text with friends, then eventually get a little poor me-ish. When Silas wakes up, he snaps me back into reality and I move on, but not without psyching myself up that the call will come the next day. Ugh. This is no way to live!"
Tags: Ethiopia, transracial
15. Cupcake and the Caseys
Since bringing Clara home from Russia, nine months ago, Amy has embraced parenthood. She blogs about everyday life with a toddler, her daughter's growth and medical appointments (including post-adoption eye surgery), and some very cute baby clothing and gear. Note: Check out the meticulous Russia adoption timeline in the right column!
Quotable Post:
"We saw the 'regular' pediatrician for the first time today. We'd been so pleased with the developmental pediatrician, but have mixed feelings about this doctor. She was helpful and informative on some topics, but she told us that Clara needs to learn to self-soothe and cry herself to sleep (insert big eye-roll here). I think that, after 12 months alone in a crib, the girl knows how to self-soothe. Cry herself to sleep? I don't think so."
Tags: Russia, medical needs
16. Rage Against the Minivan
From the title to the photos to the posts, Kristen's blog is entertaining and thought-provoking. Her unique voice comes through in posts about letting her boys dress up as girls, taking a trip to visit her son's orphanage "brother," and, yes, ranting about (and ultimately giving in to) the iconic minivan.
Quotable Post:
"As an adoptive parent, I walk a line. On one hand, not wanting to make my children feel like charity cases. On the other hand, I have had my eyes opened to the realities of institutionalization. I've seen 30 children sleeping head-to-toe in a hot room in India. I've seen kids in Zimbabwe go from home to home, hoping that someone would have some extra food. So I am compelled to talk about these things."
Tags: foster, Haiti, transracial, biological children
17. The Declassified Adoptee
Amanda, adopted in the U.S. when closed adoptions were the norm, is a passionate advocate for adoptee rights. She reads and researches extensively, and her articulate posts are peppered with footnotes, statistics, and relevant quotes.
Quotable Post:
"I talk about this a lot on my blog: how one adoptee gets compared to another. There's the ever-popular, 'I know someone who is adopted, and they're fine with it; they never talk about it.' I know several adoptees who view adoption positively, but they still advocate for reform and frequently talk about being adopted. And so I wonder why it is, to so many, that being silent about such a big thing is a sign of success?"
Tags: adult adoptee, domestic, birth-family contact
18. The Chronicles of Munchkin Land
Jenna is a birthmother in a fully open, domestic adoption, and is also a mother raising two boys. She shares stories about all three of her kids, thoughts on adoption, and powerful memories about her first pregnancy and the relinquishment of the "Munchkin."
Quotable Post:
"This weekend, we're visiting the Munchkin and her family. I'm nervous about the emotions that swirl each time I see her. There is a moment of shock that she is standing in front of me, giving me a hug and kiss. It is followed by a surge of pure motherly love. Then comes overwhelming loss—of seeing how much she has grown, of her beauty, of her intelligence, her smile, her wiggly toes. And then she's off and running, as kids do."
Tags: birthmother, open, domestic, biological children
19. An Infertile Blonde
Becky Fawcett went through five IVF cycles, had two miscarriages, and spent thousands of dollars trying to conceive before adopting domestically. Her posts range from heartfelt confessionals about infertility and waiting to self-deprecating observations about aging to giddy celebrations of life with her two children. Fawcett and her husband founded the grant-making organization helpusadopt.org.
Quotable Post:
"Before I became a working mom, I used to be a punctual person. But of course, in true Infertile Blonde fashion, my period is always on time. So when I was four days late this month, I had to wonder. Wouldn't that be just my luck? $50,000 into our second adoption, and I'm pregnant.
Don't get your hopes up. I was just late. Maybe my body was just trying to remind me that I am human. Got it, loud and clear."
Tags: infertility, domestic
20. Stirrup Queens
Melissa and her husband eventually conceived twins via IUI, and are currently taking a break from fertility treatments to conceive again. She posts about family and parenting, but her blog also stands as a gathering place for the ALI (adoption/loss/infertility) community on the Web (at last count, her blogroll contained 2,712 blogs).
Quotable Post:
"There are many posts in the ALI community about whether infertility makes you a better parent. Not in the sense of knowing all the verses to 'Wheels on the Bus' and being an expert diaperer, but more patient, more appreciative. How much struggling is necessary to make us who we become? Given the choice between always receiving whatever you want, or having to gather your own happiness, which would you choose?"
Tags: infertility, biological children
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Comments
Wow. 18 blogs written by adoptive parents. 1 written by an adoptee and 1 by a birth mother. Bravo, you've done a great job reinforcing the status quo.
Posted by: Raina at 5:54pm Feb 16
You missed an important category, older child adoption. Not everyone adopts infants. Here are four excellent blogs that deal openly and honestly with the adoption of non-babies and special needs children. Big Mama Hollers http://thebodiebunch.blogspot.com/ [deals with both domestic and foreign adoption of older children AND infants - 38 in all] 10 in 2010 The Journey of a Lifetime http://www.10kidsin2010.blogspot.com/ The Crab Chronicles [adoption of two older children, one with a limb difference] http://deescribbler.typepad.com/my_weblog/ LaJoy Family [adoption of 5 older children, from Krygstan and Kazakhstan] http://lajoyfamily.blogspot.com/
Posted by: Anonymous at 8:11pm Feb 16
Agreeing with the first commenter, where are the birthmother blogs, the adoptee blogs? Could it be you do not want to make your readers uncomfortable by exposing them to that sometimes less than rosy perspective? For that matter, what about the less sticky-sweet, less cutesy, less self-absorbed adoptive parent blogs like O Solo Mama? This list is a big fail.
Posted by: maryanne at 4:43am Feb 17
I agree you missed the boat. Both the first mom and adult adoptee blogs you chose are great but there are more great ones out there. I also think it's important to include some adoptive parent blogs that aren't so perfect. It would be nice to see the reality of adoption shown. Finally, as a previous commenter said, older child adoption is so rarely represented. Hoping to see a much more inclusive and representative list next year.
Posted by: Kerri at 5:30am Feb 17
Okay, let's try this again. "spouting angst" Is that what you think the default adult adoptee voice is? That's what it sounds like. (I refer readers to your write-up of The Declassified Adoptee.) The non-appearance of heavyweights like First Mother Forum and The Daily Bastardette also surprised me. But then, the list started with your readers.
Posted by: Jessica at 5:48am Feb 17
I hope the fact that I am the only adoptee listed above is not going to be cause for opening me up to personal critique. There are many more Adult Adoptee voices than mine out there, blogs far better than mine, and yes, they ought to have been included. I know this. I too was suprised when I saw the list. In order for adoption to be child-centered, the voices of the adults who were once those children, Adult Adoptees, should always be front and center and well-represented. In order to learn about how adoption impacts the families who have surrendered children, First Parents need to be well-represented as well. Some points: --differentiating me as a closed-adoption adoptee is why no one is reading Adult Adoptee blogs. Most of us Adult Adoptee bloggers are closed-adoption adoptees, which leaves people in open adoptions thinking there's no comparison in experience and that we're all too irrelevant to listen to. No matter when we were adopted or what type, we are still adopted today, our thoughts and feelings are very relevant to modern adoption practice. --The "angst" label alludes to the "angry adoptee" stereotype. When there are wrongs and injustices in a system, people are rightfully angry. Being problem-focused and passionate is what has made great change in this country in Human and Civil Rights. I am no more worthy of being read because I am perceived as being less "angsty" than an adoptee who is perceived as being more "angsty" is. I would hate to think I made this list and others didn't because I'm being perceived as less controversial than the other great blogs out there. Adoption is not about rainbows and butterflies. It is about acknowledging how this institution impacts the most vulnerable citizens in society--and sorry, that's not going to make people feel comfortable all the time. Doesn't mean it should be ignored. --My blog is not only about adoptee rights, but family preservation. I also blog extensively about the right of children and families to remain together, not separated by adoption, whenever at all possible.
Posted by: Declassified Adoptee at 6:35am Feb 17
I think it is completely disgusting that there is only one Adult adoptee blogger and one first parent blogger on this list. You certainly got the message across about who you think the important people in adoption are. http://nofoghere.blogspot.com/
Posted by: Jake at 7:12am Feb 17
Perhaps there were no more first/birth mother and adoptee blogs nominated? As stated, the basis of this best adoption blog list was nominated blogs. Are there critics commenting here who nominated first mother and adoptee blogs? I propose Adoptive Families Magazine add to their list and make it a top 30 with the additional ten blogs comprised of adoptee and first mother blogs starting with nominations received here in comments.
Posted by: C at 8:49am Feb 17
C, the blogs nominated may reflect the interests of the readership of the website and magazine. However, the website and magazine may lack a diverse readership in the adoption constellation because the content of the site is overwhelmingly-one sided, perhaps leaving Adult Adoptees and First Parents feeling as though the site isn't for them. One can't submit nominations for a website that they don't visit regularly enough to know that nominations are being taken. And one won't visit a website regularly if they do not feel it is inclusive of them. So I think all the points here are still very valid.
Posted by: Amanda at 9:14am Feb 17
As a birthmother of an adult adoptee, now in reunion, I do not feel this magazine offers anything for me, so I do not read it. This selection of blogs only confirms that idea. I doubt very many adult adoptees or mothers who surrendered more than ten years ago feel that this magazine includes them either. Maybe it would be better to make that clear than to pretend to be inclusive.
Posted by: maryanne at 10:16am Feb 17
Perhaps there were no more first/birth mother and adoptee blogs nominated? As stated, the basis of this best adoption blog list was nominated blogs. So why arn't adoptive parents reading these blogs? Do they not care about the experiences of adoptees?
Posted by: Jake at 12:47pm Feb 17
There are many other adoptees blogs out there in blogland, good to see Amanda included here representing the rest, check some of the links on her blog. http://eag-oncewasvon.blogspot.com
Posted by: Von at 1:48pm Feb 17
"Far from spouting angst, she reads and researches extensively" Well, that about says it all, doesn't it? The reason no other adoptee blogs were included is because they are just spouting angst and haven't done enough research on the topic of being adopted - but hey, don't let the fact that they have lived being adopted and are speaking from personal experience just like the adoptive parents who have won a coveted position in your top 20 bother you. By the way, I do not wish to detract from Amanda's blog at all as it is one of my favourite adoptee blogs. Just pointing out that there is a vested interest in promoting adoption around these parts.
Posted by: Erimentha at 6:25pm Feb 17
So typical. You should be ashamed of yourselves.
Posted by: Joy at 11:35pm Feb 17
So glad to see Amanda's blog included on your list. www.PeachNeitherHereNorThere.blogspot.com
Posted by: Peach at 6:12am Feb 18
By the way, we're not surprised by the results, are we?
Posted by: yoonsblur at 7:43am Feb 18
Just further demonstrates how imbalanced the adoption community remains. AP's continue to be the focus and the voices most widely represented and heard. I'm not against AP's, just disheartened by their over-representation and the under-representation of adult adoptees. Furthermore, this magazine should be renamed to more accurately represent its agenda: "Adoption may have a few minor, negligible flaws worth only perfunctory and patronizing attention, but ultimately, in the end, really, adoption is ONLY awesome, wonderful, beautiful as are adoptive parents, and if you don't concur with this viewpoint, well, then, we feel sorry for you..."
Posted by: yoonsblur at 7:50am Feb 18
One last thing...adult adoptees remain a significant part, if not the most significant part, of the adoptive family (without us, adoptive families would not exist and AP's would have no cause to champion), and yet we are typically excluded, patronized, dismissed, labeled, etc. particularly if we do not hold to the "party line," or as Raina alluded to, the "status quo." If a magazine is going to call itself "Adoptive Families" it's content should reflect the DIVERSE views and experiences that constitute the adoptive family experience and narrative. For a healthier, more balanced publication, please check out "The Adoption Constellation" magazine, and editors of Adoptive Families, feel free to take copious notes and lessons.
Posted by: yoonsblur at 7:56am Feb 18
"it's" should be "its"...dang typos...
Posted by: yoonsblur at 7:57am Feb 18
Can't believe you missed Adoptivity, http://blog.vaughanfirm.com . Written by an adoption lawyer, but remarkably balanced in covering the perspectives of birth parents, adoptive parents, and adoptees (including a list of resources on how to learn more about adoptees' perspectives). I've found it incredibly informative.
Posted by: Dharma at 10:10am Mar 4
One of my ABSOLUTE faves that I've followed for a very long time is We Love Our Lucy (http://weloveourlucy.blogspot.com/)
Posted by: Michelle365 at 5:30pm Mar 7
http://mkfamilyjourney.blogspot.com
Posted by: Mark Vuckovic at 9:14am Mar 23
Oh for crying out loud, people. If you don't like the list, then don't read it. If you hate AF so much and think it's so dreadfully one sided, why are you reading it? Geez. Are birthmothers (birthfamilies) and adoptees underrepresented on this list? Yup. Is it any reason to start spouting venom about adoption and about AF? Nope. There are a ton of reasons why this could be the case. Instead of whining about it, do something to change it - in a POSITIVE way.
Posted by: Amber at 8:55am Mar 25
I suggest The Adoption Constellation Magazine if you interested in reading about adoption. http://www.adoptionmosaic.org/the-adoption-constellation-magazine/ Full disclosure, I write a column for The Adoption Constellation, but I chose to participate in the publication because the editorial staff are dedicated to examining the adoption experience through many lenses and personal viewpoints.
Posted by: Shelise at 10:47am Mar 25
Best adoption blog out there ~ real, honest, heart felt, truthful. Written by a mom of eleven kids. Talks about RAD, toddler adoption, older child adoption, domestic adoption, and international. http://www.storinguptreasures.com
Posted by: Dana at 11:06am Mar 25
As an adoptive mom (of 1 so far and hopefully more babies soon) some of my favorite blogs are the one's written by adult adoptees and birthmoms so I was slightly disappointed to only have one of each listed above. I cherish what I learn from both so I know some of what to expect as our kids get older, as well as how to better relate to my child's birth-parents now and later. Since this publication, "Adoptive Families" is catered toward um.... adoptive families, it would be really nice to have a variety of birthmom blogs and adult adoptee blogs to browse through. Maybe this is better suited toward a category separate from 'adoption blogs'...? www.onloanfromheaven.blogspot.com
Posted by: Lindsay Smith at 11:37am Mar 25
from jake "Perhaps there were no more first/birth mother and adoptee blogs nominated?" i personally know of numerous people who nominated a myriad of birthparent adoption blogs. sad to see that they werent recognized, esp since without birthparents there would be NO adoption! sad to see such a one sided community. i always encourage adoptive parents to read the birthparent blogs, this magazine should do the same.
Posted by: birthMOM at 11:54am Mar 25
We would LOVE for you to include our very popular blog! We have adopted older children, infants both privately and through foster care and our latest daughter was adopted as an embryo AND I am also an adoptee! www.handsheartsquiverfull.com
Posted by: Jen-Blessed Mom to 8 at 12:54pm Mar 25
PS-we have 8 kids total :) 7 adopted! www.handsheartsquiverfull.com
Posted by: Jen-Blessed Mom to 8 at 12:55pm Mar 25
I do think that you are missing out on an important and very real portion of adoption blogs, trauma Mamas. We are families who have adopted, either knowingly or unknowingly, children with significant issues due the trauma they suffered in early childhood. Some of us adopted domestically and other internationally and with the exception of Kristen at Rage Against the Mini Van, I do not know of a single blogger on that list that talks openly and honestly about how hard it can be to attach to a child who is terrified of letting you love them. Perhaps future lists could look all the lenses of adoption not just the happy endings. www.stellarparenting.blogspot.com
Posted by: J. at 1:56pm Mar 25
Adoption is as varied as people who adopt. Our stories are all different. We adopted one daughter as an infant, and have two biological children. We adopted two other older children. Each birth and adoption is a unique journey...one I'm thankful we're on every day. I try to be honest when I blog--the ups and downs are all there: http://jarmanfamilyblog.blogspot.com/
Posted by: Mary at 5:40pm Mar 25
www.AllArePreciousInHisSight.blogspot.com Special needs adoption, adopting out of birth order, older child/teen adoption, losing a special needs adopted child, 10 kids (7 adopted), 5 adoptions in 2010, domestic and international adoption, RAD, Tourettes, Bipolar, Oppositional Defiance Disorder, Hydrocephalus, and other labels, Haiti, Colombia, Serbia, USA. :-)
Posted by: L at 10:31pm Mar 25
Reading these comments, I am beginning to suspect it is all about the blogger, not the subject matter or the bits of wisdom, humor, education and experiences that can be shared.
Posted by: Chris at 9:52pm Mar 27
As one poster said...every life that is touched by adoption has a unique esperience, and perspective on that esperience.I feel that in a " perfect world" adoption would not exist, and every child born into this world would be lovingly nurtured and cared for by their birthparents/family.But...for whatever the reasons, that is not the case. Everyone involved in the adoption constellation suffers unavoidable pain , and we cannot compare and measure whose pain deserves the most empathy.Personally I have always put the needs and feelings of adoptees at the top of the pain heap, as they are the ones who truly had no choice from the very beginning.Let's stop trying to undermine each other in this journey...because only then can we make progress in the discussion about adoption.Let's concentrate on the babies, children, teens and adult adoptees who I think really deserve our ears the most. If the rest of us ( adoptive parents,birthparents) can express ourselves openly and honestly with this in mind, and without condemning others, it would go a long way to improving the conversation.
Posted by: Deborah at 5:59am Mar 28
We've found this blog really helpful: http://mostlovingfamily.com/blog/
Posted by: Katy at 8:32pm Apr 6
We've found this blog really helpful: http://mostlovingfamily.com/blog/
Posted by: Katy at 8:32pm Apr 6
What a great list! Can't wait to check out all of these blogs! http://koprowskikids.com/
Posted by: Natalie at 8:57pm Apr 11
nomoremoves.blogspot.com doesn't get anymore brutal than that. honestly when we started this journey, that's exactly what i needed. no rainbows, sprinkles, sugar-coated crap...just the truth. she gives it! sure it's not always pretty, but the point is no matter how hard/horrible/difficult/awful the kids or the situation are, she loves them, loves them more than life itself. God is good...!!!
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Posted by: Elle at 4:04pm Aug 16
As an adoptee, I do wish there were more adoptee blogs on the list. It was good to see Amanda made the list. I often look up to her as a growing blogger. We both have different yet similar audiences. I believe if there would have been more notice for voting or nominating bloggers there would have been a better response or outcome. Please check out my blog: The Not So Secret Life of an Adoptee www.yourbloodismyblood.blogspot.com
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www.therhouse.com (open adoption advocate), www.xavierandaliceanne.blogspot.com (adoptive mom, transracial family), www.lisaanne119.blogspot.com (birthmother)
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