RE: Creating a Photographic History for an Older Child

We have no pictures of our daughters at birth or when they were younger. We’re still looking. We’ve taken many pictures of them since they came to us—going to the park, shopping, at school. All of these were firsts.
ELLA • via Facebook

RE: Ask AF: Because Baby Showers Are Bad Enough Without Nosy Questions…

I have two beautiful sons and I’ve made peace with my infertility. But the one place those old, uncomfortable feelings of grief always pop up is at baby showers. Inevitably, the conversation eventually turns to birthing and breastfeeding; it’s just too much “biological baby” talk for me to handle sometimes. I still go, and I love being there, but I give myself a pep talk before going (as well as permission to exit early, if I need to). I’ve come to accept that this is part of my story and always will be.
AMY • via Facebook

I wish this only happened at baby showers. Total strangers seem to think they can pry into your fertility just about anywhere now. While walking my dog, I’ve gotten asked, “When are you going to have children?” by people who thought the affection I showed my dog was more appropriate for a child. And my husband and I will be battered with the question over and over at any social gathering we attend. I’ve taken to chiding people who so impolitely ask this, reminding then that they should be more conscientious about the private pain or heartache that someone may be experiencing.
KERRI • via Facebook

I think that the comments are rude and disrespectful, so I say what I feel. I once responded, “How about you focus on your uterus and I’ll focus on mine?”
NAOMI • via Facebook