Our society has gotten to the point where most people can agree that overt racism is wrong. Few would argue that segregation or using a racial slur is acceptable. But many more subtle forms of racism persist. Here’s how to combat them.
Talking About Race and Racism
Racism exists, and it’s our job as parents to talk about it with our kids. Here’s an age-by-age guide to handling those conversations.
Parenting Strategies for Blended Families
When your family includes biological and adopted children, how do you make sure everyone feels included?
“Is My Asian Son a Whiz Kid?”
When my son was five months old, friends predicted he would be a good student — probably a mathematician.
“Bigotry, Blindness, and Basketball”
What started off as a fun day on the courts left my heart hurting for my two brown boys, and the kids who excluded them.
“Having ‘the Talk’ with My Black Son”
It’s not easy to teach your child that people may fear him because of the color of his skin—but it’s something parents through transracial adoption must do.
“Joining an African-American Church”
My wife and I were nervous the first Sunday we attended an African-American church. Would they welcome us? Would they stare? We should have had faith.
First Conversations with Kids About Race
Bringing up race and racism to your kid can be tough — but it should be done sooner rather than later.
“Cornrows Fit for a Ballerina!”
A simple hairstyle was not so simple for a dance class full of little girls with beautiful heads of black hair.
Helping Your Preschooler Feel Good About Race
Preschoolers are starting to notice racial differences. Adoptive parents have a responsibility to talk about them.
The Other Side of Privilege
If we’re white, we experience many benefits of unearned status because we’re “the norm.” But adoptive families are not considered the norm. Now what?
Helping Your Teen Survive Cliques
Sometimes teens feel left out of the in crowd. Here’s how to help.
When Children Deny Their Heritage
A strong connection to role models and to others who share their ethnic background is as important now as ever.
“On Becoming African American”
Raised in a white community, I’ve just begun to embrace my heritage.
Heritage Starts at Home
How we can help our children feel good about who they are — and where they’re from.
“Our Family’s Unique Kwanzukkah Celebration”
The story of how one transracial family reinvented their holiday traditions.
When Your Child is of a Different Race
If you build a positive self-image for your child, he’ll be able to thrive in a world that is not always fair.
“Do Fan Dances and Tea Ceremonies Really Teach Us Anything?”
The museum view of culture and heritage ignores the realities of life as a racial minority. But there is a middle ground.
“Teaching My Children That Black Is Beautiful”
I tell my African-American children that they are smart and beautiful because I know that the world may tell them otherwise.
“Too Many Questions”
When you and your child look different, the world wants to know why.